Babies and BabyMommas

Let me just start this post by saying that I have nothing against babies. I like babies. I think the are cute. And I might even have one of my own someday. Maybe. Then we have the people who have babies. Generally, I like them, too. It's an exciting thing and I am sincerely happy for them. The problem I have is when the people who have babies start to blur the line between their decision to have a baby and their decision that I should have a baby. Let me share a few examples.

1. The Assumer: "So are you pregnant yet?" said a gal with who I had only had one actual conversation with prior to this winner of a convo. Neither of which had anything to do with my family planning forecasts. This was completely out of left field.
2. By Default: Just because I am the only (married) woman at a baby shower without children does not automatically mean that I will be the next one to have a child. You are welcome to have seconds and thirds while I am still building my appetite. By all means, help yourselves.
3. The Baby Planner: I really don't need you to help me plan the next time(possibility) that I could conceive. Call me old fashioned, but I really don't like the idea of other people planning the where and when of such an event and then elaborating on the details. I'm sorry, I never invited you into my personal (very, very personal) life. Why did you invite yourself?
   

Don't get me wrong, I hope that one day I will be blessed to have a child, but I like to do things at my own pace and when I am ready, not when others' determine. So there. And just a word to the wise, making comments such as above exampled, greatly reduce my 'appetite' for a little one!

Also, to all you BabyMommas out there, please remember that children should always be the first priority. Not the new dog, or the new house with in-ground pool, or your job. It makes me so sad to hear a parent(s) so frustrated because their child is acting his/her age and not like a grown, mature adult. We were not all born with critical thinking skills and the knowledge to think things through before we do them. Come on, a lot of adults I know still have a problem with that! Let the kids be kids and help them grow!!!

I'd like to take a moment to give some shout-outs to a few of my favorite moms:

• My Mom (of course!! She is seriously awesome and totally helped me out today--all the way from Texas!!!)
• Plippy-im-ja (she is my personal therapist and gives me free sessions daily; she'll even fly-in for special cases!!)
• Sara Jean (taught me to never let others set limits on what I am capable of, as well as how to really love myself and be proud of who I am.)
  
• Jami (pronounced 'hi-me' but not really; walking perfection, seriously. everything this women does is with 110% of her efforts and the results are stunning!!)

Thank you for being awesome examples to me, and helping build my appetite!!

"No other success can compensate for failure in the home." -- Pres David O. McKay

Disclaimer: All baby decisions referenced above using "I", "me", and "my" are made in total agreement with my husband. We are a team and it is neither he nor I, but us, completely.